Four Generations Under One Roof (四世同堂)

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Maybe this technically doesn’t count since we usually don’t all live together. But at least for the few days surrounding 大妹妹‘s wedding we’re playing “four generations under the same roof” (四世同堂), a traditional Chinese ideal where four generations of a family all live together in peace and harmony in one house.

But being a bunch of Canadians and Americans, I’m not so sure that the idea of everyone living all together in one big house has ever seriously crossed any of our minds. Though I have to admit the last couple days have been really 热闹

I google-image searched “四世同堂” and found both old and recent Chinese examples of four-generations-under-the-same-roof photos (here), if you’re into looking at other peoples’ family photos. The last one is from the TV drama adaptation of a novel by titled “四世同堂”.

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  1. 四世同堂is no longer achievable though remains an ideal. Houses big enough for four generations are either not available or unaffordable in China. I want my parents to live with me in Shanghai after they both retire, but as we only have a three-bedroom apartment now and my parents’ medical benefits at government expenses are not transferable to Shanghai, we may not be able to eventually.


  2. My situation is a bit diffeerent, but not terribly so. I had planned to spend my Golden Years doing things I had put off for years while I raised my family. Real life got in the way. Now, we are a four-generation household living in a three bedroom house. And money is TIGHT. I have Social Security and a little retirement money, my son hasn’t a job, but brings in what he can with spot jobs like lawn mowing and handyman stuff. (And, by the way, he used the last year and a half to finish his Bachelor’s degree since he couldn’t find a job.) His daughter, my grandaughter, has a baby and a boyfriend, and both my granddaughter and her boyfriend work a McDonald’s (hey, don’t discount it! You’d be surprised at the good stuff you can have in life with fast food, and the people you work with can be really nice, too.) The baby, aged fifteen months, circles around the family-as-babysitter, and he’s a darling.
    What have I learned? Well, first, life is what happens when you are making other plans. Second, a multi-generation family is never dull (Someone has a blowup at someone else about every three months, which clears the air.) Third, you can live with an untidy house if you just keep your eyes on the important stuff–bathrooms and kitchens are essential clean areas. Fourth, there’s no market for the stuff that clutters the house from the earlier, richer, times. Take a deep breath and give the stuff away. Some of my best friends are retired and living the good life I thought I would have. I am pleased for them, but it’s not MY life, and I have to let the envy go or poison the great life I DO have.

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